I’ve always got something to say. You'll see comments on music, books, TV shows or movies that strike my fancy. I’m an opinionated patriotic female & I’m Southern to my soul. My political POV is more conservative but just because we disagree I don’t think you’re an idiot. It's an opinion. Please feel free to comment, but I ask that you be respectful to me and anyone else posts. Rude or insulting comments will be deleted.
Wednesday, September 9, 2015
Kentucky Woman (Sorry Neil Diamond)
Thursday, June 4, 2015
What's Wrong With People?
Monday, March 24, 2014
Racial Equality?
I just read this on the Cosmopolitan Magazine site that Nick Cannon (a.k.a. Mr. Mariah Carey) is releasing a new album called ”White People Party Music” (“Nick Cannon Dressed Up in Whiteface” March 24, 2014 at 3:52PM by Eliza Thompson http://bit.ly/1hV9JPe) . To promote his new project he’s posted pictures and videos of himself in…ready for it…white face. That’s right, white face. What did Cosmo post? “Nick Cannon, who is apparently about to release an album called White People Party Music, decided the best way to promote said album is to dress up in whiteface. OK! Perhaps the best part of this whole thing is the series of hashtags Cannon used with his first post: #GoodCredit, #FarmersMarkets, and #CreamCheeseEating, to name a few. While it's true that many white people do love all of those things, I would argue that pretty much human who's ever tasted cream cheese, regardless of race, knows that it's the nectar of the breakfast gods.” Where’s the outrage? Where is the disgust? Can you imagine the backlash that would happen if the reverse happened?
Think back to Halloween when Julianne Hough was slammed by just about every one for wearing black face when she dressed as a fictional character. Back to Cosmo, what did they print/post; “So, um, this was a really shameful weekend, guys. First, photos emerged of Julianne Hough in blackface for Halloween. Context, not that it changes anything: She went as Crazy-Eyes from Orange is The New Black. Hough is best known for being on Dancing With The Stars and the former better half of asexual mammal Ryan Seacrest. Not that her credits matter. Even if you’re Meryl Streep, applying your intense form of Method acting to your costume on All Hallow’s Eve, there is still absolutely no way you are allowed to party-hop around Beverly Hills in blackface. (“So... This Weekend Was Embarassingly Racist. October 28, 2013 at 12:03PM by Anna Breslaw http://bit.ly/1lhMJPX)
So let me get this straight; a white actress puts on black face and dresses as a character and she’s “embarrassingly racist”, but a black singer/dancer/husband dons white face to promote a new album called White People Party Music – he’s doing it FOR MONEY – and not a single remark that would even border on calling is distasteful.
Personally, I find both to be stupid and offensive, but why is one seen as offensive and the other called PR? If dressing as someone of a different race is offensive, isn’t the same behavior as seen just as racist – if not more so – when done to make money?
Thursday, March 28, 2013
Same Sex Marriage
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Bullying
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Saving Soaps
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Electrifying End to 2011
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Where I Stand
Granny was one of the major influences in my life (I quote & refer to her often) who was an “old time” Democrats. I announced at the age of 7, much to Granny's shock, that I wanted to vote for Ronald Reagan. I said “Because he says things are bad & he’s gonna make it better.” Of course I couldn’t vote….but he won. I remember watching his inauguration and hearing shortly after that the hostages were free. When he ran again in ’84 I couldn’t vote for him…but Granny did. As far as I know, she voted for a Republican as President until she died in 1994. She was going to vote for Michael Dukakis in ’88 but when he was asked if his wife were raped and murdered, would he favor an irrevocable death penalty for the killer, he said "No, I don't, and I think you know that I've opposed the death penalty during all of my life", my dear Granny threw her shoe at the TV and in a very non- little-old-lady-like manner informed anyone within ear shot that (a) his parents were not married at the time of his birth and (b) that he wasn’t a man because he lacked the necessary equipment. I think he was the last Democrat she considered for President.
Along with considering myself a conservative I thought I was a Republican. Now, in the spirit of full disclosure, I am a registered Democrat. Because the area I live in was so heavily Democrat, up until the last 5 years or so, most elections were settled in the primary. Because of my interest in a certain candidate, over the last week or so I’ve been told I wasn’t a true Republican or a conservative. Doing some research I’ve realized I’m more of a Libertarian than a Republican, but I am a conservative – more of a fiscal conservative than anything else. I wouldn't say that I'm a socially liberal; I just don’t think government has any right to tell consenting adults what to do with their personal lives. You can bet, when the public or the press starts poking around in the private life of a politician they pitch a fit, but it’s ok for them under the guise of “the government” to tell us what is appropriate and acceptable. So just to clear up where I stand here ya go:
Abortion: It’s murder, plain & simple. You’ll never convince me otherwise. That having been said, we’ve (women) had the choice, but if you ask me it should be the last choice. Why? We have so many more choices that we didn’t have at the time Roe vs Wade came before the Supreme Court. Birth control is readily available and in many forms; pills, shots, implants, and both male and female condoms. Honestly, if you’re having sex you should be using condoms anyway.
Gay Marriage/Adoption: The issue is for some is this; is marriage a religious or legal issue. The answer is it’s both. In the State of FL, you can have a minister, preacher, rabbi, or priest (or notary public, state judge, etc) perform the ceremony but without a marriage license it’s not legal. You can have the license but without being solemnized, (To perform with formal ceremony) it’s not legal. Here's the thing; if your reason for being against gay marriage is that the Bible speaks against it. Well it also speaks against being unevenly yoked believer to non-believer. So does that mean that if the person you love & want to spend the rest of your life with is a believer and you're not you can't get married? Some ministers will probably perform the ceremony if you took classes....but that's no guarantee you're now a believer. However, with your license in hand you can go to a notary public and be married no matter what or how different the religious beliefs of you and your intended are. If two consenting adults – heterosexual or homosexual – want to be married I don’t have an issue with it. If they get their marriage license, do the blood tests (if required), wait the required amount of time, not a problem. Do I think that a minister, rabbi or any other religious official should be required to perform the ceremony? No. If the state can't make them perform the ceremony for a heterosexual couple then they shouldn't be able to force them to for a homosexual couples.
As for the issue of adoption…why is it even an issue? I know straight people who should NEVER have been allowed to have and raise their own children period. One argument is “The child will grow up in a home with gay parents and become gay themselves.” Really? I’m sure that in my 38 years I’ve heard something more asinine but right now I can’t bring it to mind. Using that logic (gay parents will raise gay children) then the whole discussion is moot because there shouldn’t even be gay people anyway…every gay person I know has straight parents. Granny believed a person was born gay or straight it was who you were and there’s nothing you can do about it. Like most things, I agree with her.
Immigration/Illegal Aliens: I can’t tell you how furious it makes me to see people rewarded for breaking the law. They sneak into this country; take a job that pays them under the table so they don’t pay taxes, take advantage of our TAX FUNDED social programs, refuse to learn our language, but expect our businesses, schools and citizens to learn their native language, change our laws to suit & protect them but they have no desire or plan to become a citizen….and why should they? They – the criminal – are reaping all (and sometimes more) of the benefits of the taxpaying citizens without having to bear any of the responsibility. It would be impossible to “round them all up” and deport them, but when they’re arrested, send them back. Don’t keep them in jail indefinitely where they are supported by the taxpayers, DEPORT THEM!
Taxes: Taxes have gotten out of hand, but that’s not news. Those of us who work pay more every year to support those who don’t. I understand there are people who truly need public & government assistance. I also know (because of my former job and individuals I actually know) that there are probably more people who are on public and government assistance because they’re too sorry to work. We’ve got the better part of a generation – possibly two that have been raised on public assistance. I know of young couples who get married and factor in food stamps and other government assistance programs into their budget. They’re planning this BEFORE THEY GET MARRIED!
One option is to get rid of the IRS and move to a flat tax system. That way no matter how much you make a year or how you get paid everyone pays the same. Small tax breaks for companies who employee Americans. If a company wants to send their production to a foreign company…fine…that’s their right, but they’re gonna pay a higher fee to bring those items back into the United States. No exceptions.
Also, Presidential candidate Herman Cain has a plan -- the 9-9-9 plan -- that makes sense. Check it out. https://www.hermancain.com/999plan
Look, I’m no politician, I haven’t studied political science and I don’t have a college degree, but I was raised with common sense. Issues like abortion and gay marriage are important – no argument from me on that. But when you look at the state we’re in, in my opinion, they’re not as pressing as the economic crisis we’re facing. The country (most of them anyway) was sold a bill of goods under the guise of hope. Hope is a wonderful thing but folks hope won’t give you a job, pay your electric bill, put gas in your car or feed your kids. When there’s a candidate with a solid economic plan, supports our military and wants to protect our borders, but you dismiss him/her because he doesn’t check off each & every box on your survey is ludicrous. If you want to tell me I’m not a conservative, you go ahead. Knock yourself out. I don’t need someone else to tell me who I am or what I believe. But this I know; we’re in a hole people and we’ve helped dig it. The longer non-liberal/non-progressives keep fighting amongst ourselves about which issues “have to be” agreed on, the longer we’ll be in this mess. Rule #1; when you find yourself in a hole – STOP DIGGING!
Thursday, May 12, 2011
As of today, I'm DONE with Glenn Beck!
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Everyone.....Build A Bridge & Get Over It!
If you’re interested in my opinion (and you’re reading this aren't you) here it is; He’s a citizen….build a bridge and get over it! Let’s talk about something else; like jobs (or the lack there of), homeless families and children, education, our dependence on foreign countries for things like oil, the rising cost of everything…you know the real issues facing this country.
To me, “birthers” are like the folks who call you a racist if you disagree with Pres. Obama and the folks who attack a politician/commentator personally instead of their issues or opinions …. THEY'RE LAZY! Saying Pres. Obama isn’t a citizen doesn’t mean it’s true. Your opinion that someone is racist because they disagree with him doesn’t make it so. Calling someone you disagree with politically a cow, an idiot or mindless doesn’t make you right, it just means you made it through junior high & you get to play what amounts to “I know you are but what am I.” either in print or in front of a camera. Name calling – which is what all of this amounts to – doesn’t indicate that you're right, it only indicates that you’re too flaming lazy to actually pay attention to the issues, get the information to tell me exactly WHY you disagree with him or WHY someone is a racist because they disagree with him. Personally, I don’t care if he’s white, black, blue, orange or green. I’d vote for a Romulan if I believed he/she could fix the mess that the Democrats and Republicans have gotten us into. (Ok, maybe not a Romulan….but you see my point.) I’ve said it before that my Granny was born before women could vote & was a registered Democrat until the day she died, but she voted for Reagan in ’84, Bush Sr. in ‘88 & ’92 because she voted for the person she believed in, not the party.
First and foremost I’m an American & I consider myself a Patriot. I believe that for all of its faults, this is the best country in the world. I believe in American exceptionalism. I also believe that if you don’t then you have no business holding ANY elected office much less that of President of the United States. We need to stop the he’s not a citizen/you’re a racist crap, stop the my-way or the highway mentality, stop steppin’ & fetchin’ politically correct crap and focus on getting things fixed.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Another year....
Something else I love about getting older is the way I look. I’ve always been told how much I look like my Daddy, my Aunt Donna, their mother, and that’s not a bad – they’re good looking folks (I hope that didn’t sound as cocky as I think). But I’ve never spent a lot of time with that part of my family. I’m not sure if this is gonna come out right, but it kinda sucks when the family that you identify with, that you spend your time around isn’t the part of your family you actually look like. Does that make sense? Yeah, Mama’s always said when I get really mad I look like Aunt Annie & when I get really tickled, I look like Aunt Jo but I’d like to see it sometime other than extreme emotional moment LOL. In the last couple of years I, and others, have started seeing “the family” in me. Not just the way I act, but how I actually look.
One of the perks of getting older is that even though I care what people think about me & the choices I make, it doesn’t carry as much weight as it used to when I’m making those choices. No, I don’t throw all caution to the wind and do whatever I please, consequences be damned, but I have two hard and fast rules; If I do_____1) Will it land me in jail? 2) Will it embarrass my family? If the answer is no, I may just give it a shot. I keep going back to the lyrics of the Trisha Yearwood song "Real Live Woman" “…I no longer justify/Reasons for the way that I behave/I offer no apologies/For the things that I believe and say/And I like it that way.”. I was never consciously a rebel and I didn't go out of my way to be different, but I've never felt the need to "fit in". If I wanted to dye my hair orange, I did it. If I wanted to wear fishnets, bigtime make up, and heels one day then a t-shirt, sweats, sneakers, a ponytail and nothing on my face but Oil of Olay the next, I did it. But I'm more comfortable in my own skin now than I was when I turned 30.
Inspired by an Ally McBeal rerun, the last few years I’ve picked a theme song for the year but this year I was having a hard time finding one. I couldn’t find a song that hit me or felt right. I thought, “Ok this year I just won’t have a song.” I’m fine with change. But in the shower last night, hair all soapy, a song came on and I knew that was it! The song? “F*^$#n Perfect” by Pink (Yes, I know I’m 38, but I just don’t like “the F word”….sue me).
So why this song? Well for one, I love Pink. She’s honest, straight forward about pretty much everything, she doesn’t apologize for who she is, what she does or how she feels & I think she’s a great role model for young girls. Second, I’ve been kinda kicking myself the last several months because I fell off the exercise wagon & I’ve put back on about 15 pounds that I had lost (that’s a whole ‘nother post) and I’ve been trying to re-energize, refocus myself and remind that chick in the mirror that it doesn’t matter how may time I sleep in, fall down, or screw up, as long as I get up and take another swing. This song says everything I’ve been telling myself. I downloaded it last night from Amazon and played it all the way into work with the windows down. I'm sure the folks who drove down HWY 98 thought I was nuts but I don't think it's possible for me to care less about that.
Here’s the lyrics and a link to the song http://mysp.ac/fljMFt
F**kin' Perfect (Perfect)Made a wrong turn, once or twice
Dug my way out, blood and fire
Bad decisions, that's alright
Welcome to my silly life
Mistreated, misplaced, misunderstood
Miss 'No way, it's all good', it didn't slow me down
Mistaken, always second guessing, underestimated
Look, I'm still around
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect..
Pretty pretty please, if you ever ever feel like you're nothing,
you are perfect to me!
You're so mean, when you talk about yourself, you were wrong
Change the voices in your head, make them like you instead
So complicated, look happy, you'll make it!
Filled with so much hatred...such a tired game
It's enough! I've done all I can think of
Chased down all my demons, I've seen you do the same
Oh, pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
Pretty pretty please, if you ever ever feel like you're nothing,
you are perfect to me
The whole world's scared so I swallow the fear
The only thing I should be drinking is an ice cold beer
So cool in lime, and we try try try, but we try too hard and it's a waste of my time
Done looking for the critics, cause they're everywhere
They dont like my jeans, they don't get my hair
Exchange ourselves, and we do it all the time
Why do we do that? Why do I do that?
Why do I do that..?
Yeah, oh, oh baby, pretty baby..!
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than perfect
Pretty pretty please, if you ever ever feel
Like you're nothing, you're perfect to me
You're perfect, you're perfect!
Pretty pretty please, if you ever ever feel like you're nothing
You're perfect to me...
Pink is on Twitter @Pink and she's amazing. If you love the song, give her a shout & let her know!
Thursday, December 30, 2010
End of the year.....so long 2010!
I’m starting this in the surgical waiting room. In April, Mama had a hernia (that she got when she had her AAA surgery done) repaired because apparently, it slipped. They’re fixing it now & Mama has promised me she’s gonna take it easy this time. We do not want a repeat of this. This time last year I was pet free, but found a tiny little kitten New Year’s Day & she had 3 kittens in May. The plan was to find them homes, but by the time they got old enough….now we have 4 cats.
I can’t believe the year is over...where did it go? Don’t you hate it when you get to a point on a calendar – end of the year, your birthday, etc – and wonder what happened? It’s like I went to bed, woke up and BAM it’s over. Maybe I’m just getting older & I “feel” it more.
I’ve had a few realizations of 2010: I realized early in the year that a co-worker who I thought had my back (because she said she would) clearly didn’t & quickly threw me under the bus. The last year I’ve lost contact with some folks. I understand that life can get hectic, but in spite of phone calls, voice mails & emails, I’ve heard nothing since April & that was the first time since September ‘09.
Also, I discovered that there are some people that even though they were an important part of my life, apparently, I’m not a big enough of a blip on their radar to rate a “hello” at Wal-Mart. I know they saw me because they made eye contact & turned around. To those folks…have a nice life. I wish you nothing but joy and good luck in all you seek. Yes you’re my family and I love you dearly, but I will not chase you down (literally or figuratively) to get you to love me or want me in your life. All that does is waste time & energy and when I finally realize that it did me no good, I’m both mad and hurt (believe me, I’ve done it). I have a big family that loves me, friends who think know I’m crazy and they love me anyway…and I’ve still got the feathers to prove it. There’s a line in “Stand By Me” “Friends come in and out of your life like busboys in a restaurant.” and I’ve always known this but when it’s family members, it kind of takes you by surprise…or it did me anyway.
He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.-- Epictetus
Ok, done with the small & potentially negative stuff; onto the biggest & best realization of all. I am one lucky chick. Why? Well unlike so many in the country I have a job. I’m not real happy right now, I haven’t gotten a raise of any kids (even cost of living) in 4 years and as far as I know it ends in June. But I have a job. Even though I’ve still got a way to go before I’m at my weight loss goal, I’m healthy. My family is, for the most part, healthier. In September 2009 Mama had surgery to fix/remove an Abdominal Aortic Aneurism that could have killed her. This time last year she was on the backside of recovering from that.
Aunt Annie (next to Mama my favorite person in the whole world) was on oxygen 24-7 as a result of a major heart attack & bypass surgery in ’05. They told her that she’d need it for a a little while, but it had been 5 years! She did what she wanted but had to haul that O2 bottle everywhere she went. In the year or so she developed a tumor & in the spring they removed it & guess what? No more 24-7 oxygen! It seems that the tumor was in the “right spot” and as it grew bigger & bigger, it pressed against her lung and restricted her breathing. Now, if you want her, just call her cell phone because she won’t be home to answer the land line. I love it! Growing up the most important people to me weren’t my friends, it was my family and in particular my old ladies. Now that they’re all gone, I have The Aunts...Aunt Annie, Aunt Elvia, etc. If The Aunts makes you think of the movie Practical Magic, there’s a reason. I’ll have to tell ya’ll the story of “The Naked Man in Biloxi” sometime….it puts my rooster story to shame!
Like I said, I am so lucky and thankful to have the people in my life that I have, that love me as much as I love them. Too lucky and thankful to concern myself with the ones who aren't concerned with me.
Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough.-- Oprah Winfrey
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Can we bring this punishment to America?
A friend just said that the body of 3 yr old boy was found just 12 miles from where she lives & body of his 5 y/o sister hasn't been found yet...killed by dad/stepmom of Mobile, AL. Every time I hear of a child that has been hurt or God forbid killed, my heart aches. But when I hear that these crimes have been committed by the so-called parents of the child – the very people who are supposed to love and protect them – my blood boils. In my opinion, there is no punishment harsh enough for these monsters. The only thing that would come close is the old school punishment of being drawn & quartered. Here are two descriptions of the punishment...can we get this on the next ballot?
“...Drawing and quartering is another punishment mentioned in kids' movies only because nobody realizes what's involved. The statutory punishment for treason in England from 1283 to 1867, D&Q was a multimedia form of execution. First the prisoner was drawn to the place of execution on a hurdle, a type of sledge. (Originally he was merely dragged behind a horse.) Then he was hanged. Cut down while still alive, he was disemboweled and his entrails burned before his eyes. (Some references, such as the Encyclopedia Britannica, say this step, and not dragging behind a horse, is what is meant by "drawn," but actual sentences of execution don't support this view.)
Finally the condemned was beheaded and his body cut into quarters, one arm or leg to a quarter. How exactly the quartering was to be accomplished wasn't always specified, but on at least some occasions horses were hitched to each of the victim's limbs and spurred in four directions. An assistant with a sword or cleaver was sometimes assigned to make a starter cut and ease the strain on the animals. The remains were often put on display as a warning to others. Nothing like the good old days, eh?...“
“...The convicted were drawn by horse on a wooden hurdle to the place of execution. Once there, they were ritually hanged (almost to the point of death), emasculated, disemboweled, beheaded and quartered (chopped into four pieces). As a warning against further dissent, their remains were often displayed at prominent places, such as London Bridge. For reasons of public decency, women convicted of high treason were instead burnt at the stake ....”
I know it probably shocks ya’ll that I support the death penalty (can sarcasm be picked up over the internet? I hope so.), and I think it should be on the table for all child molesters or child murders because I don’t think you can “fix” that. The other option being they are imprisoned for life in the general population with everyone knowing the details of their crime.
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
On the next episode of "As The Tweet Turns"...
I’m probably gonna step in something I can’t scrape off my shoe, make somebody mad, maybe even lose a follower or two. Though I would hate the last part (I’m real close w/ most of the folks who are interested enough to follow me), like Gloria Gaynor said, I will survive.
I need someone to please explain to me why people use Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, etc as a way to deal with a personal grievance? If someone posts something on your wall, in your comments, sends you an email, or tweets it to you in a Direct Message (that no one else sees) why is it necessary to bring everyone else who follows/is friends with you and the other person(s) involved into your drama?
I understand that your feelings got hurt, I respect that that you feel insulted and I can appreciate that you feel you’ve been wronged. Do I believe you have the right to confront the person you feel has wronged you? Absolutely; no doubt about that. But do it one on one by whatever means of communication you chose. I don’t think you should challenge them to a duel at dawn, which to me is what online fighting feels like (I have a quote about online fighting, but I won’t use it. Not because it’s not PC, but because it would hurt the feelings of someone I adore). Have I gotten involved in these online soap operas? Yes. Would I take back what I said? No, because I meant what I said; if you hurt someone I care about it gets my hackles up.
The recent episode of “As the Tweet Turns” involves a DM conversation between Jimmy Wayne and another individual (I’m still not totally clear on who said what to whom first) and comments he made regarding someone else….can you see where this slippery slope is taking us? And yes, I slid down it too (yes I asked because I’m nosey like that) and accept any responsibility for stirring the pot.
Honestly, I thought it was over and done with but now more comments are being made, statements being posted that, in my opinion, cast a shadow on the MMH movement which is counterproductive to helping the children. I haven’t been as active of a member of the movement as some. But do you think that making public an altercation between individuals that makes the founder of the movement look bad will help? It may make folks question him & thereby question the organization & movement. Do I think that just because Jimmy’s doing something positive he should get a pass if he does or says something that hurts someone? NO WAY! Call him on it. I have. Don’t believe me? Read this blog I posted as a result of a comment he made that made me mad http://whatsbrandithinking.blogspot.com/2010/01/elephants-are-grey-but-not-all-grey.html I let him know (I can’t remember if it was in a DM or not) but didn’t name him in the post because he was in the process of doing something I believed in & I didn’t wanna run the risk of making him look bad and causing folks to have second thoughts about supporting what he was doing. A couple of messages were exchanged, but I didn’t make a big deal out of it.
I don’t know what transpired or who was involved and honestly (here’s what’s gonna send some folks right over the edge) I don’t care because it’s not my business. What took place did so between two or more adults and if you ask me (an no one did) that’s how it should have stayed. Who brought in a 3rd party? I don’t know and again, not my business. What he’s doing for kids, and what he’s lost because of his dedication to it, is to be admired. The work that has been done and continues to be done by MMH, Unseen Child and organizations/movements like them is too important for slights (real or imagined) or bruised egos (of any/all parties) to cast a negative light on ANY organization.
Did he say or do something that hurt or offended someone? I’m not going to say he did or he didn’t because I wasn’t involved in the initial exchange but I will say this; he’s not perfect…he’s human. As humans we are flawed. We say & do things that hurt folks; some unintentional and some not. I know this because I’ve done both. You get mad and if you’ve got a quick Irish temper like I do, you say/tweet the first thing that comes to mind (I’m learning to control this). Later you may realize that even though you can delete what you posted, but it’s out there baby & you can’t un-ring a bell. If he feels he has or realizes he has then yes, he should apologize. If he doesn’t and apologizes anyway they are just empty words and in my opinion if that’s the case, are better left unsaid.
The thing we have to remember when we admire someone is not to put them on a pedestal. It’s hard not to but speaking as someone who has had someone fall off and who has done the falling, it’s hard to stay up there and it’s a long way down.
When you get down to brass tacks, I buy Jimmy Wayne’s cds, tickets to his shows, came to Twitter and met my TGF’s (for which I am greatly thankful) not because of the work he does for kids, but because Jimmy is a singer, songwriter and a performer and a damn good one. He makes me laugh and he makes me think. That and he’s hot (yes, I’m a little shallow, sue me). Even after what I’ve been told, read, etc I’ll continue to do so without hesitation because I am a fan. That is, if he ever plays a show within driving distance of my hometown again.
Monday, July 19, 2010
New Blog
http://proud2babiggirl.blogspot.com/2010/07/rededication.html
Friday, July 16, 2010
Changes are coming.....
The other is going to be about the weight, diet, exercise stuff, etc. I’m hoping that by posting something regularly (every week, every other week, I don’t know) will help me get back (because I'm waaaaay off) and stay on track. This way folks who are interested in my diet/exercise don’t have to wade through my political rants & those who agree with my politics don’t have to hear about how much I eat, how far I walked or what my current pants size is LOL!
Sunday, May 16, 2010
W.W.N.D.
The whole time I was reading the reports and watching footage online of the ruinous floods in Nashville and surrounding area, I waited for the big fundraiser. Knowing how the entertainment world -- actors and musicians from all genres -- came together to help the victims of the Christmas Day Tsunami Hurricane Katrina, and the recent devastating earthquake in Hati, I was certain that it was just a matter of days before it would take over the airwaves…and I’m still waiting. Country music stars held fundraisers within days…even before the waters had started to recede. And there is a concert planned…a great one…to be broadcast on GAC. Not ABC. Not CBS. Not NBC. ONLY on GAC.
The network coverage have been virtually non-existent. Yes, Anderson Cooper did come to Nashville and that attention was welcomed and greatly appreciated, but where are the news teams covering the destruction? Where are the volunteers from all over the country donating their time to help the residents recover from a natural disaster that hasn’t been seen in this area in centuries? For the most part, people don’t know the magnitude because it’s not being talked about. Why should the major media outlets care if the President doesn’t seem concerned. Why do I say he’s not concerned…where was President Obama? Has he done a PSA to be nationally broadcast urging people to help & donate? If he has, I haven’t seen it. He hasn’t been to Nashville. He didn’t even do a flyover. President Bush was vilified for ONLY doing a flyover after Hurricane Katrina and Obama hasn’t even done that much. Why hasn’t he been called to the public carpet for his lack of interest or concern. Wait…he did call Brad Paisley. What compassion. There was the attempted bombing in Time Square, he was focused on the oil spill in the gulf. Living on the Gulf Coast my entire life, I’m thinking about that too. Was this not as important? Forget the history and culture that are part of the very roots of America that’s been damaged and lost in Nashville, but people have lost everything, even their lives.
Larry Elder, a columnist with the Orange County Register, said in his column on May 14th (http://www.ocregister.com/opinion/floods-248910-people-hale.html), made a couple of points that came to my mind more than once;
• The media's beloved Obama failed to carry Tennessee, Kentucky and Mississippi. Those states, alien (if not enemy) territory, are simply of minor importance. It's just hard to feel those folks' pain.
• One Bush critic argued that the president didn't care about New Orleans because it is "black" and "sexy." Perhaps the media's indifference to Nashville is because that city is "only" 25 percent black, and therefore "white and redneck."
You know what's missing? The blame game. The residents of Nashville and other cities & towns in the area that were underwater, some that have never flooded, have yet to point fingers, complain because there not enough being done for them. That there’s no belly-aching because there’s not a government agency there with an open wallet. Why? Because, for the most part, they’ve got it covered. Those who didn’t loose everything are helping those who did. Even people who suffered loss of home and property in varying degrees are taking care of their homes and when they’re done at their home do you know what they’re doing? Going to their neighbors and saying, “What do you need? “How can I help?”, Storme Warren of GAC’s “Headline Country” said it best in this weeks show, “Friends, neighbors and even strangers statewide literally went door to door to help people clean up.” I’m not a Nashville resident, and though I'm a lifelong country music fan, I’ve never been there, but watching this episode, I was so proud of the folks who just got in there and did it. One guy they interviewed on HC said “We were looking for somebody else, but we couldn’t find the address so we just stopped at the first house we pulled up to.”.
I think I’ve answered my own questions, and maybe even your's as to why the news coverage is almost nil and why the Obama Administration isn’t overly concerned. The victims of the flooding aren’t acting out. They’re not committing crimes and blaming it on the situation. There’s no looting. There aren’t people bemoaning their misery or how long it’s taking to get things fixed and back to normal. The local businesses aren’t shutting down because their shops, nightclubs, and other tourist attractions that bring in a large percentage of the cities revenue for an undetermined amount of time because they were under 10 feet or more of water. What are they doing instead? When the water left, they cleaned up. THEY cleaned up. They didn’t wait for someone else to do it…they did it. Mr. Elder spoke with WSMV general manager Elden Hale and he quoted the WSMV news anchors, "'Volunteerism is in our DNA.' When the Red Cross came in they were surprised because so much had already been done.". It seems that people who take care of themselves and their neighbors aren’t as big of a news story as folks who ignore warnings and then sit and complain because someone isn’t there doing it for them. Well, if God forbid, I’m ever involved in a natural disaster, and I’m at a loss for what to do, I’ll just ask myself, WWND….What Would Nashville Do?
If ya'll want to help, here's a couple of ways. If you know of ANY other, please feel free to post them
http://www.gactv.com/gac/pac_ctnt/text/0,,GAC_26058_98169,00.html
www.cfmt.org
http://www2.grammy.com/MusiCares/NashvilleFloodRelief/
Monday, April 26, 2010
Confederate Memorial Day
For those of you who don’t know, in Florida, April is Confederate History Month and April 26th is Confederate Memorial Day in the State of Florida (in Georgia and Alabama as well). Here is the PDF of the actual proclamation from 2000 at http://www.florida-scv.org/projects/confedhist/SenProcCHM.pdf. I can’t find a similar proclamation anywhere since 2000, but as far as I’m concerned, it stands. Because of the font, it’s a little difficult to read, but here’s what it states:
A Proclamation in recognition of Florida Confederate History Month
Whereas, the month of April is the time during which the Confederate States of America initiated and ended its four-year struggle for a sovereign and independent nation; and
Whereas, in proportion to its population, the State of Florida lent more soldiers and sailors to the Confederate Cause than did any other Southern state; and
Where as, All Floridians should be knowledgeable of the history of the War Between the State and the Battles fought in the State of Florida, including the Battles of Natural Bridge, Olustee and Santa Rosa Island; and
Whereas, April 26 has been designate by the laws of Florida as a legal holiday, a time in which to honor the memories of those who sacrificed their lives in the War Between the States;
Whereas, we recall the tragic events that took place between the years of 1861 and 1865, we do so in an attempt to gain a better understanding of the conflicting ideals and passions that pitted brother against brother and tore a nation apart; NOW, THEREFORE,
Be it respectfully proclaimed that the residents of the State of Florida be urged to observe the month of April, 2000, as Florida Confederate History Month and, in solemnly contemplating the events of that time, resolve to foster a climate in which all Americans live and work together in "one nation under God".
In the spirit of "…All Floridians should be knowledgeable of the history of the War Between the State…", here’s a link to "A Southern View of History: The War for Southern Independence". It’s kind of an online (or you can order a CD) class about the Civil War, (War Between the States, War of Northern Aggression). http://www.florida-scv.org/projects/education/index.html
It’s not real popular to be proud of your Southern Heritage, anyone who knows me knows that I’ve never been super concerned about being popular. Do I wanna be liked, yeah—everyone does— but being the most popular has never been a personal goal. I’ve stated before that I seriously doubt that any History Month – be it Confederate History, Women’s History (March), or Native American History (November) – will ever get the press or public support and praise that Black History Month does and that irks me to no end. I’ve never understood why the history of one group was so much more important or precious that they should be held in a higher regard than any other.
Friday, April 23, 2010
Pride, not prejudice
I've seen "American by Birth…. Southern by the Grace of God". on bumper stickers, coffee mugs, t-shirts, you name it. To me, those words mean pride in being both an American and a Southerner. When I say I’m a proud Southerner, I get the same look from most people, which is usually one of confusion. It's as if others don't understand why, much less how, I can be proud to be a Southerner. If you ask most people what were the causes of the Civil War, they’ll tell you slavery. Nothing else will be cited...just slavery. Because of slavery alone the South seceded from the Union and caused The War, how could I--how dare I, be proud. The answer is simple, it's the same way that anyone else can, and should be proud of their heritage.
I'm from the South, and to the best of my knowledge my family has always been in the South (through the joint research that I and cousins have done, I have documents from as far back as Rowan County, NC in 1790). My ancestors fought in the Revolutionary War and on both sides of the Civil War. My great-great-grandfather moved to what became Tyndall Air Force Base with his family from Alabama, my great grandfather was born here and my family has lived in Panama City since then. That makes me the 5th generation to live, and the 4th to be born here. To me, that's something to be proud of. It galls me to no end that people think, and have the nerve to tell me that I should be ashamed of being Southern.
I'm a mix of Irish, Scottish, and Indian (Native American). What if I were to walk around wearing a kilt (Scottish – and yes, I know, these are generally worn by men), a feathered headdress (Indian/Native American), with a Shamrock and Claddagh (Irish) airbrushed on my kilt and feathers? Yes, it would look strange and it would most certainly be a grievous fashion risk, but all are examples of my ethnic heritage, so no one would complain about being offended. However, if I were to wear a shirt that said "Southern and Proud" or fly The Rebel Flag from my front yard, I would called a bigot, which would be, at best, a bold-faced lie. The Confederate Battle Flag, (a.k.a. Dixie, The Rebel Flag) has been used by White Supremacist/Neo-Nazi groups for ages, as a result, when someone sees it they automatically think that the person displaying it a racist pig. I am not, nor have I ever been a racist. I wasn't raised that way.
Why is it perfectly acceptable for everyone else to be proud of their heritage and why is it so difficult to believe that I feel the same? I would LOVE for someone to give me a logical explanation for that? Anytime there’s mention of a Confederate History Month or even Confederate Memorial Day (April 26th) you can almost hear the collective “Oh hell no!”. Do you know what you’ll get if you Google Heritage month? You’ll find (through a couple of sites) that February is African-American History Month. March is Irish American Heritage Month. May is both Jewish American and Asian Pacific American Heritage. September is National Hispanic-Latino Heritage Month, October also does double duty as Italian-American Heritage Month and Islamic History Month and November is National American Indian Heritage Month. There’s even a Gay Lesbian Pride Month – it’s June for those who want to celebrate. You can be proud to be African-American, Irish, Asian-Pacific, Jewish, Hispanic, Italian, Islamic, Native American and Gay/Lesbian, but I’m told that I should be ashamed to be Southern because of the Civil War and one of the events leading to it – namely slavery. Now anyone who thinks or says that slavery wasn’t a major issue in the beginning of the Civil War is a fool. Anyone who thinks and says that slavery was THE ONLY issue that started the Civil War is just as big of a fool...there were many reasons for the Civil War. Remember,"'to the victor belong the spoils" and one of those is to write the history of that victory. Do some research, read more than the history books in school. Because of one issue in a terrible event, I should hang my head in disgrace.
Following that line of thinking; someone from a German background should be ashamed because of Hitler. Someone who is Japanese should be forbidden to show pride in a grand and ancient heritage because of Pearl Harbor. What about someone whose family immigrated to this country from Iraq? What about people who are of the Muslim or Islamic faith? Clearly they should be ashamed of their religion because of the events of 9-11. Americans should be ashamed to be American. Didn’t our forefathers attack, kill, and wrench the land they built this country on from the Native Americans? They were pushed off of their native land and environment and on to reservations where they we at the mercy of the American government for their very survival. Sounds like enslavement to me. Maybe Native Americans should be ashamed because technically, like the Confederacy, they lost? Maybe Southerners should re-name ourselves? How about Southern-American? No? Maybe Confederate-Americans?
The two of the primary issues were State’s rights and the fact that the South was being taxed into oblivion (any of this sound familiar?). Political issues and disagreements began soon after the American Revolution ended and between 1800 and 1860, disputes between the North and South grew more passionate. One of the dominant issues was taxes, or tariffs, paid on wares shipped into this country. Taxes were placed on Southern merchandise that was shipped to other countries – something that was not always applied to Northern goods of corresponding value. A set-up like this allowed individual states as well as privately owned companies to follow suit. Southern banks and financiers, who paid higher interest rates on loans owed to Northern banks. The situation became critical after several "scares", including one in 1857 that hit Northern banks harder than those in the South. Southern investors who found themselves stuck with sky-high payments to save Northern banks that, because of ghastly investments, suffered serious financial losses.(again...sound familiar)
Prior to the Civil War, the political power in the Federal government was changing. Located in Washington, D.C., Northern and mid-western states were becoming increasingly powerful as the populations increased, and Southern states lost power, and sectionalism began to take hold. Like the original thirteen colonies went to battle for their independence almost a century earlier, the South felt a growing desire for freedom from the Federal authority in Washington. The people of the South believed that state laws carried more weight than Federal laws. This issue was called State's Rights and became a very warm topic in Congress.
Do I think that the institution of slavery was right and should have been preserved? NO, not by any stretch of the imagination...that part of American and Southern history I'm not proud. My point is not that slavery was right...no one in their right mind believes that. The way the men and boys of the South fought are the reason for my pride. They fought for what they believed was right and what they stood for. They were fighting for their way of life – right or wrong. Did slavery did benefit the South? Yes, but it also greatly benefited the whole country as well. Cotton was a very marketable product that was shipped world wide, which in turn, made money for the entire Union.
This country, both then and now, has convinced itself and most of the people in it into thinking that the South was the only place in the country that used slaves, but it wasn't. There were slaves up North as well, but they called them House Servants. Even those who worked for wages didn’t have anywhere near an easy life. What about the conditions that the factory workers lived and worked in? People – men, women and children – worked in factories as long as 14-16 hours a day earning as much as $3.50 a week. The children worked not out of choice, but necessity and the families lived in what at best could be called shacks in work camps on the lands adjacent to the northern factories.
The South and Southerners are looked down upon, and to a certain extent discriminated against, without a thought given to the Southerners feelings. Anytime there is a character in a movie, TV show, or book that is dimwitted, a man beats his wife, a female character that’s manipulative, or when there's a call for someone that my Granny would call "trashy" chances are they have a Southern accent. Why is it that anytime a bigot, Neo-Nazi or hate monger is needed, the automatically give them a drawl. Are there not racists in the Northwest? What about the wholesome Midwest? California? Surly not in liberal, all accepting Sunny California! What about the Northeast? Never! Fine Yankees would by no means look down on or treat someone differently because of race, religion, gender or sexual orientation. In fact, a couple of seasons back when the writers of one of my favorite television shows – Law & Order – SVU—needed a racist figure to be the loudmouth of a Neo-Nazi group, they cast one of my favorite actresses, Marcia Gay Harden, and gave her a Southern accent. She’s in New York! There aren’t racists in New York? Fine, in the last 5 minutes of the show, she revealed herself as an undercover agent, but she had spent the last 55 minutes spouting racist, discriminatory crap. But what do you think the viewers took away with them? Not the fact that she saved the life of one of the main characters from being killed by the real villain or that she apologized to two of the officers who had been the target of her many racially prejudiced rants, or the moment when she stood up in the courtroom, did her best “Heil Hitler” stance and in her finest twang, screamed, “WHITE POWER”. I’ll give you three guesses – and the first two don’t count.
When this type of characterization is placed on Blacks, Orientals, Hispanics, Muslims, or any other fraction of the population, the ACLU is the first one to jump in and scream at the top of their lungs, "Discrimination!!!!!!" but do Southerners get the same kind of consideration? Not a snowballs chance in Miami! Why? Because right or wrong, over a century ago we put our foot down, stood up for our rights, fought for something we believed in. The difference – we lost.
Doesn’t this country preach tolerance? What about a little of the tolerance for those of us who are proud of our Southern ancestry as to those who are proud to be Native American, German, French, Spanish, etc. To those of you who say its offensive, do you want to know what I find offensive? The idea that we as Southerners should be embarrassed and when someone insinuates that anyone who is proud to be Southern is a member of the K.K.K. THAT I find offensive! I believe that is offensive to be told that I should be ashamed of my ancestral history and that it should be swept under the rug of history and ignored because it’s not politically correct, because it was one of the most, if not THE most, sorrowful time in our country’s history, and because the discussion of a barbaric practice makes people uncomfortable. Do I think that only the glory and highlights of the South or the Confederacy should be taught, explored and examined? Absolutely not. Throw open the windows of history, brush away the cobwebs of political correctness and let the light shine on the reality and look at it all; the good and the bad, the glorious and the dishonorable, the things we’re proud of right alongside of the parts we’re not so proud. I am proud to be a Southerner, make no mistake of that. To be proud, is not to be a bigot.
Here are a few articles to check out....food for thought (added 4/10/2013):
Causes of the The War Between the States - A Southern Perspective http://blueandgraytrail.com/features/southerncauses.html
The Pre-Civil War Era (1815–1850)
http://www.sparknotes.com/history/american/precivilwar/summary.html
Causes of the Civil War -- Economic and Sectional differences
http://shs.westport.k12.ct.us/schager/US%202005-06/Civil%20War/economics%20&_civil_war.htm
Genesis of the Civil War
http://www.lewrockwell.com/rockwell/civilwar.html
The Southern Side of the Civil War: Facts Your History Teacher May Not Have Mentioned About The War Between the States
http://michaelgriffith1.tripod.com/southernside.htm